Friday, September 5, 2008

The Big Reveal

So, it's done. The big reveal.

I notified Abigail's father that I am adopting a baby and taking Abigail to Ethiopia to go get my little one. This was significantly more stressful for me than it sounds.

For those who don't follow my other blog, Abigail's dad and I are not exactly on good terms. He has decided that he wants nothing to do with financially supporting Abigail, no matter how many court orders I have. We have been in court for over a year now, and it's just getting ridiculous at this point.

I guess there is some safety in that. I don't think he can stop me from taking Abigail to Ethiopia, especially since I have taken every health and safety precaution that I can and since Abigail's teacher/principal has approved the trip. But, I guess he could try. And to be frank, I wouldn't put it past him. (Sometimes I think he does things just to spite me.) On the other hand, I don't think he could actually get a judge to side with him, considering he hasn't been involved with Abigail in over a year, and he is in violation of several court orders.

If you think of it, say a little prayer for this situation, would you? I feel the weight of this hanging over me, and I am very nervous that he will try something.

15 comments:

Leslie said...

I'll be praying.

Dawn said...

Sad that he has chosen to not be a part of her life. How could he not be brimming with pride in such a sweet little girl?! I will say a prayer for your family, now as it is growing, and always!

Rebecca said...

Not a fun situation...I'll definitely be praying for you and Abigail!

chrisandshasta said...

Grace, this makes me so angry!!! I'll be thinking of you as you get ready to travel. Try not to let this hang over you too much - fighting you on this would require a certain amount of energy that it doesn't sound like he wants to expend.

~Laura~ said...

I'm praying!

He's missing out on a great little girl. His loss...

Julie said...

I will pray for you, and especially Abigail. I don't think he could get a motion drafted and a court hearing before you leave, by the way, especially if he has no lawyer retained. Even if he did manage to get a court hearing on the issue, I can't imagine what grounds he would have, or more importantly, what grounds a judge would agree with, to stop Abigail from going on this fantastic trip to Ethiopia. So, I don't think you should lose any sleep over this. Easy for me to say, right?- Julie O. (Sherman Oaks, CA)

JourneytoFamily said...

If he's not supporting her financially, I don't think there's a thing he can do to stop you. But I understand how it can be very stressful. Hopefully this won't overshadow the joy of going to get your new daughter.

haze said...

He wouldn't dare! Try not to worry about this. He doesn't have a legal leg to stand on.

Teresa said...

This is a trip of a lifetime for Abigail, it would be extremely selfish of him to try to take that away from her.

Praying for you. May you have the peace that passes ALL understanding.

LoveNotes4CocoPrincess said...

Hey Sista-Grace...I've not been able to post a thought to you in a while but you and Abigail are always in my heart and convo with my dh...he finally stop asking, "Who is Grace?".

Anyway, I don't want to talk bad or down about Abigail's biological father because my prayers and intercession concerning his heart will not go heard and answered if I spoke ill about him...however, with that said, HE BETTER NOT!

Finish getting your things packed, get a day of rest and be alive for Abigail and Sparrow when the moment gets here!

Love ya without knowing ya!!!!!

Jennifer Morgan said...

You have our prayers.

Gagie said...

If God is on your side who can be against you?
All your friends are praying for you and Abigail, what a comfort.
Cast your cares upon the Lord for He careth for you, my little one.

Amber said...

I will pray. I can relate to your situation more than you know.

Nnenne said...

I will be praying for you, for your girls and for him. God is in control and I will pray that He helps to change your ex's attitude towards you, your daughter and Him.

God bless to you friend!

Halo said...

Will do little ladies.