Monday, February 18, 2008

Adoption Counting- Like Pregnancy, but Different.

When I was preggers, everyone always wanted to know "how far along" I was. I always responded in the number of weeks pregnant that I was, but most people were looking for a quick "5 months" or whatever. This created a problem, because people who heard "oh, I'm 20 weeks" would listen and translate that to 5 months and assume I had 4 months to go. In actualality, because pregnancy is a 40 week process (or 37 weeks in Abigail's case), 20 weeks meant I had about 5 months to go, not 4. (This is because of when you start "counting" the pregnancy- it's all medical stuff, and I won't bore you, but suffice it to say that I counted by weeks, others counted by months, and this created mass confusion.)

So, now with the adoption, I find myself in another counting dilemma. I am tracking my wait for a referral in the number of weeks I have been on the wait list. But my anticipated wait is predicted in months, not weeks (3-5 months, to be exact.) So, it's not really accurate to say "at least 12 weeks for a referral" because months are not exactly 4 weeks (more like 4.3 weeks.) It is more accurate to say at least 13 -14 weeks of waiting before a referral.

All this to say, should I switch and start counting my wait in months instead of weeks? I don't know. All this silliness.

4 comments:

Chris & Jess said...

OK, I was pondering this myself. At first, when 4 weeks passed, I thought to myself, oh one month. But that wasn't accurate. So, I now have weekly celebrations and monthly celebrations. The weekly celebrations make us feel like we're getting closer, but the months are true milestones. I say toast to both!

graceling said...

Thank you Jess. So glad I am not the only one who thinks about these things:)

Teresa said...

I just posted my 1 month celebration today. (which puts us at about the same place) Every day closer to our baby is to be recognized.

btw, Nice to "meet" you!

VALARIE - Single, Ethiopian-bound, mother-to-be of two bright-eyed Ethio children. said...

Grace you know that I am counting right along with you. Birth moms get to do a count down we adoptive moms get to count out to...